Wedding Vow

The anniversary is just around the corner and I am reflecting the past 9 years. Marriage is a sacred institution but it’s losing its appeal. Even Pitt-Jolie have been delaying to take that vow.

A happy family not only provides shelter but also love for each family member. We share a dream and are willing to uphold our family values. The family is at the verge of shatter when challenges kick in like miscommunication, financial difficulties, spouse infidelity, health issues to name few.

Parenting becomes a factor in any marriage. How to raise a child? What are the hopes and dreams? When do you be lenient? Why should you be strict? Which method to use? Who is your model or coach in parenting? Where is the parenting manual when you really need one? It is no longer a union between Adam and Eve… we may have saints..we may have rascals..all in a house..

The children are growing up. We have to live in new perspectives from now onwards. We must work hard to ensure the family is stable and strong. We must not let love to wither. That is everyone’s responsibility. Each must be willing to contribute and reciprocate his or her feelings.

Each day, I wish I am a better parent than yesterday. Each year, I hope I am a better partner than yesteryear. There are countless moments that victory is far from reach. However, defeat is not an option. And, love survives the trials of time…

When we fell out of love..

I’ve seen how a family structure collapsed. Kids on the side, mom goes East and Dad goes South. It was never a pretty picture. Torn in between, children sometimes must choose with whom they want to follow.

 

Factors may include financial problems, extra marital affairs, and family’s influences. Over the years, no doubt our priorities have changed and our physical attractions may have waned. If we forget our oath to stay in sickness and in health or even the promise to grow old together, we maybe swept in our problems and stressful life events.

 

I once received “A Message from the Woods” little handmade card. It was meant as a high school prom invitation card from HY. He drew the cover page. Inside, he popped the question whether I would be his prom date. To cut the story short, I accepted and went to the prom with HY.

 

Of course there are other incidents that we faced together through thick and thin. Life is sometimes playing tricks on us. However, those little things that make us fall in love with the same person over and over again. In spite of many challenges in life, we would stay in love and respect each other.

 

HY and I had dinner with the M’s, an American couple who we have known for about 5 years. Recently on Facebook, DM added a picture dating back 30 years. I have always admired the way they look at each other. Each smile, each stroke when we spent our evening with them made me wonder their ‘secret recipe.’  They survived the 30 years, raised a son and daughter and now they are proud grandparents to a 7-year old boy. To the great couple, DM especially, I solute thee…..