Flying Story

The cousins will be moving to the North very soon. The children will miss each other terribly. My husband and I have thought of sending Liya by flight on her own during school holidays. I’ve seen kids flying by themselves and the flight attendants have been very helpful.

I once flew from London to Kuala Lumpur when Liya was about 2 years old. I was okay. However, I was thankful when I flew in from Miri, Sarawak when Liya was a baby. The air hostess voluntereed to hold Liya so that I could rest, eat and go to the restroom. That was sweet.

Doc on Duty

“Shall we go see your doctor,” I said to Ajib who was down with flu. Liya convinced me to go on a different day since mummy must be at work.

“I can’t go. My doctor is dead,” replied Ajib. I wasn’t sure if I could buy his excuse but it was amusing.

Stay Home

“Daddy, you shouldn’t go to work. You are not feeling well,” Liya persuaded my husband who has been suffering from a swollen saliva gland since Saturday. I guess children have show sympathy and they can offer advices too. Whether the advice is logical or the opposite, it’s up to us to nurture and add  meanings.

Transformers 2

My hubby and I took Ajib and Liya to the cinema to watch the Revenge of the Fallen. Ajib was excited, he ran in circles and sneaked and hid behind and in between the crowds. It was their first time to the movies.

Liya complained the sound system was too loud while Ajib couldn’t help himself asking questions and fascinated by the robots. We should have brought Ajib’s Bumblebee which we had bought about 2 years back.

People go to the movies with various expectations but they come out taking home some lessons from the movies. Otherwise, the trip is purely on entertainment, nothing more nothing less. In real life, people expect miracles to happen. People wish the love and the care shall remain if not blooming. We take things for granted until something hits us on the head. The bump is painful but the loss unbearable.

Parenting is also like getting bumps all over the head. We’ll be mature over time. We grow fonder of things that we care about. We make sacrifices along the way. As it needs 2 to tango, parenting also requires equal participation from the parents. Don’t be stingy with love and time. Kids will settle for those who give them priority.

Where’s Everybody?

Ajib opened his eyes but feeling a bit frustrated that he was left behind. It was 9:00am.

After a few hours of interrupted sleep, I let Ajib sleep a little longer in the morning. “I want to go to school, Aunty,” Ajib pleaded to my maid.

Maximum Overdrive

“Thanks, co-pilot,” I said to Ajib who just passed me my toll money, RM2.00 on Duke Highway. Ajib was smiling. Liya said that she also wanted to help me the next time. Then we talked about drivers. Those who drive aeroplanes, trucks, lorries, cars and vans.

In ‘car games’, Ajib could easily swin because I keep on hitting the curbs and signs. I even go to the ooposire direction. In the real life, mommy is the driver – chasing the red light, rushing to school, racing to the hospital and running errands.

Managing Conflicts

We had a fight the last weekend. However, we both agreed that we wouldn’t want the kids to find out. Instead we were discussing in the master bedroom while Ajib and Liya were playing computer games outside the room. Tears came down, we sobbed, we cried, and we quarreled in the most polite manner. The kids came into the room. We requested them to let the two of talked it out. No shouting or loud arguments heard by the children. We purposely tried hard not to make them worry. It is about us the parents and we shouldn’t burden them into thinking the parents are facing problems.

Happy Father’s Day

Life with daddies may be full of rules and curfews. Life without father figures would be a tragic loss and lonely. A mother cannot replace a dad and vice versa. Fathers have their own charms to win the children’s hearts and values to uphold.

Liya has learned that Daddy has a soft spot and seldom says no. Whenever she couldn’t get a new purse or a pair of hairclips, she would turn to Daddy. As usual, Daddy’s girl wins.

Ajib looks up to Daddy. Daddy is the tech-savvy and an icon. Daddy would opt for more adventurous stuff. Daddy allows game time. With Daddy, there will be lots of tumbling and rolling.

Have a great ‘Happy Father’s Day’ today Daddy. Ajib and Liya can’t wait to present their hand-made cards. Thanks for being a wonderful, supportive and loving father.

The Longest Day

Today has been the longest day. Our maid wanted to go for a family gathering and leaving me doing the chores. I didn’t feel much like parenting at all today. I have running up and down the stairs for milk feeds, lunch and dinner, nappies, drinks etc. Ajib and Liya quarrelled like always. Pushing and screaming and fighting over turns playing computer games. Of course, parenting needs energy..if only stern look enough to make Ajib and Liya to hush for a few seconds. I was not myself..

Night Vultures

Somehow it feels like a curse. Both Ajib and Liya have nightmares. Liya stopped having nightmares, screaming in the middle of the night until before 30months. Unfortunately, Ajib still has to pull through at 38months. At first, I thought this could be they have lots to share and unable to express themselves. Could be true for Liya. The moment she could construct a full sentence, no more waking up crying, sobbing, struggling and searching for something.

I guess Ajib needs more time. Maybe while all learning being transferred to long term memory, flashes of them become nightmares for Ajib. Boys develope their speech at a slower rate compared to girls.